Six months out. In any other universe–like waiting for graduation, or college to start, or a soldier to come home–six months can seem like an eternity. However, in wedding time six months is merely the indication that your hair is very soon to be on fire.
Last weekend was the first time in many months where it felt like there was a definite progression on wedding planning. I now have:
And very luckily we have a host of friends and family who are tackling even bigger and more time consuming tasks. Our friend Maggie is baking all of the cupcakes for our wedding, my mom and sister-in-law are crafting 70 beautiful place settings and table decorations, and my brother is imagineering the chuppah and ceremony. I love that our DC wedding will meet our budget (well, almost) and that every piece of that day will feel connected to people we care about.
See what I mean about this being a community event? So much of my dream wedding has been achieved thanks to connections, family and friends. Twitter brought me our caterer and a new friend Alli Sosna, plus our photographer and my new pal Nikki Rappaport. I met Michelle at Hey Love Designs based on a recommendation from my Twitter/Borderstan pal Alejandra. I have to thank Twitteratti Alex Priest for coming through on our wedding band and I’ll never have a more lasting memory than the very special engagement photos by my best friend Lauren.
I know it’s a recession and many brides are DIYing their brains out in way that might feel like it is a hardship. But truthfully, I can’t imagine turning my wedding over to people anymore capable and authentically interested in seeing it be a success. Lucky me. Lucky us.
One thing we didn’t expect was just how complicated it can be to get married in the District if you are choosing not to be married either at a church or at the justice of the peace. In order to have my brother officiate there are a few steps:
He must first be ordained by a third-party organization (We’ve chosen Universal Life Church). Then, he must complete an Application for Authorization to Celebrate Marriages, and have that signed by a clergy of the third-party organization, plus submit at $35 fee. Should you not be able to obtain a clergy signature, there is another form that requires four methods of proof that verify your relationship with the organization. Whew. Luckily for us Prince of Petworth put us in touch with a lovely DCist who will sign off on the form for us.